Do you people not read the papers?

Gag me – do you people not read the papers?

Between the religious right being caught with their pants down and the Mormons – please…..the religious people are not the logical answer to the problems.

Maybe let’s try a little personal responsibility….individual, personal responsibility – what a concept…..maybe we can’t do much to help the dad’s now – but maybe, just maybe we can teach the not yet dads to wear condoms so it doesn’t happen to them until they’re mature enough to handle things…including their own lives.

Affordable attorneys

Many folks write that they cannot afford an attorney. However, if your place of employment has one of those employee assistance programs, they may have negotiated reduced rates with local attorneys. EAP programs are frequently confidential consultations. Unions frequently have deals with local attorneys as well.

Remember, attorneys charge in six minute increments. In some firms, there is a requirement that the attorney BILL at least 50 hours per week. Understand that there is a difference between being at the job and billing. Every time you call your attorney, KA CHING! He will talk to you and write a memo about the conversation and it will take at least 12 if not 18 minutes. If you write them a letter, KA CHING, at least 6 minutes. You can do the math. If you absolutely must talk to someone, talk to the paralegal. They charge less per hour.

A few additional tips to keep your fees down. 1) Don’t pay more than $.10 per photocopy. Photocopying is a profit center for many law firms – they charge $.25 per page. 2) Challenge overnight delivery fees – ask him or her why they waited until the last second to get something done and why YOU have to pay for it (lawyers are lousy at time management). 3) Only pay long distance charges for OUTGOING faxes and no more than $.25/page for incoming faxes.

Also there are 5 most typical mistakes:

You have a right to expect that your attorney will attempt to have your case resolved quickly & efficiently. Settlements at the courthouse steps are expensive. Make sure your attorney negotiates an agreement PRIOR to going to court (or at least makes an attempt) for anything. COURT IS EXPENSIVE. For example, if the only issue is child support, and you live in a state with mandatory support guidelines then why are you going to court. If the court allows it, figure out the support obligation and get an agreement on it signed without going to court. Then it need only be presented to the judge for his/her signature without everyone having to be there.

She’s YOUR girlfriend but you don’t know if you are the father?

She’s YOUR girlfriend but you don’t know if you are the father? Also, the court would not have entered a child support and garnishment order without prior notice to you so where were you when the support hearing came up.

The AG is involved: a) because AG’s typically are responsible for enforcing support orders when the mother has little money; or b) because the mother went on public assistance and now that they know where you are, they want their money back. If the AG is really holding the arrearage over your head, my GUESS is b.

Leaving the country without paying the support just p$ssed people off at the courthouse because you made it look like you could care less about judicial orders. Now that they have your attention, the AG wants to give you a civics lesson.

You need to sit down with that attorney of yours pronto and go over all the possible scenarios. Next time, you need to be a bit more aware of what is going on around you.

As for the other members of this “club” I hope this case serves as a wake up call. The stakes in these cases are high – pay attention to what is going on, DON’T EVER MISS COURT DATES and comply with all court orders unless it is absolutely impossible (contempt requires wilful disobedience and can be avoided if you have a decent excuse (note that decent is a relative term)) no matter how onerous.